Today, we’re talking cash without being trashy! We’re talking about vaginal fisting. Aïe aïe aïe! What’s all this? In this one, the person is penetrated by a fist.

Before we get to this position, which is anything but harmless, let’s take a look at current sexual practices. Yes, they are becoming freer.

Yes, some of them are often associated with BDSM (Bondage, Domination, Sadism and Masochism) and the LGBTQIA+ movement, but in reality, it’s totally different.

While this carnal activity frightens one part of the sexually active population, the other revels in it. For the former, here are ten tips that are sure to change your mind about the incomparable pleasure of vaginal fisting.

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Understand vaginal fisting so you can love it!

It’s well known that we’re afraid of what we don’t know. And let’s face it, if you go to Google translations and see that fisting translates as fist, you’re a long way from a sweet erotic dream. You can already imagine the pain, the strain and so much more. But for every new experience, from the softest to the hardest, there’s one common denominator: love. And since it’s all about pleasure, there’s no need to fear any unknown territory.

You don’t come to vaginal fisting overnight. You don’t say to yourself “Hey, darling, how about a little fisting tonight for a change from missionary? Of course not! Either you or your partner are willing to go beyond your self-imposed limits. You want to test something else, to see the darker side of the act. But maybe that’s where you’ll find the light! It’s all a question of dialogue and consent.

Achieving pleasure through vaginal fisting: a question of consent

In a couple, or even a threesome, taboos exist because there’s insufficient communication. To talk about it is to act on it. If one of you wants to try vaginal fisting, it’s important to discuss this fantasy before putting it into action.

How do you go about it?

There’s no need to make an appointment and sit down around a table to plan the “thing”. Instead, choose a nice moment, perhaps after you’ve made love, when the endorphins are still kicking in. You’re snuggled up together, your partner’s breath tickling your ear. And little shivers ruffle the hairs on your arms. Good timing to bring up the subject.

If you’re the source of this urge, tell him you’d like to spice up your lovemaking. And even better, that you’d like to visit his body like a spelunker who wants to discover his world… in depth. In short, be romantic, funny… or not! Because maybe your relationship works differently. In any case, be yourself. Don’t shy away from the forbidden, as they slow down your libido and close the door on ecstasy.

Combining the practical with the pleasurable in vaginal fisting

The debate is over. The big night is coming and you’re wondering how the experience is going to go. It’s going to be great! The only downside is that you’ve read that during vaginal fisting, the body produces a lot of secretions. And it’s true, especially as you’ll be using fluids that will be added to the cyprine. To ensure that your evening is a success and that nothing interferes with your pleasure, be prepared. Have all the necessary accessories ready.

To avoid having to remove the mattress or sofa afterwards, take some towels. Place them in plain view and then place them under your buttocks. Position is everything, so it’s best to be comfortable by combining business with pleasure.

Let’s talk about it!

Use lubricant so it glides along on its own

Wonderland opens its arms and your beloved spreads his or her legs. Your lovemaking began with caresses, kisses and sweet nothings, then slowly you switched to the position suitable for vaginal fisting. He penetrated you with one finger, then two, and triggered the desire to continue your experimentation.

Your perineum is relaxed and you’ve already had a few strong sensations. Your partner is ready for the final touch. But is your vagina lubricated enough to be stretched and penetrated by a full hand?

How do you use lubricants?

In any case, even for a woman who wets a lot, fisting should be accompanied by a lubricant. The vaginal walls are fragile, and pleasure must be at the center of attention. If you have to go to the gynaecologist the next day, you’ll turn your back on the practice. By taking precautions like using enough lubricant and going in small strokes, you’ll achieve pleasure without the pain.

Lubricants have different properties. Read the warnings carefully. Water-based lubricants are suitable for use with latex condoms. Others are incompatible with the material. In all cases, prefer a thick gel that will facilitate penetration and, possibly, nourish the skin.

As pleasure is a two-way street, everyone should find it pleasurable. The fististist, therefore, and the fistée, inactive. Does this mean that the fisting partner should be deprived of his or her other half’s gaze?

The ideal position for vaginal fisting

He’s on his knees, with his eyes directly on your intimacy, which he hopes to visit completely. By lying on your back, you’ll break the bond created by the discovery of a new pleasure. The ideal position for vaginal fisting is with your head raised, so that you have a panoramic view. You’re both spectator and actress in your own X-rated movie. The climax of the story comes when your partner’s fist finally penetrates you.

The less glamorous reason for this posture is the comfort it brings. Muscles are less tense, and therefore easier to stretch. But it’s also an opportunity to exchange glances and communicate in a different language.

Can vaginal fisting be romantic?

Sexual intoxication is nothing without a beating heart, without the emotion of giving and receiving. Romanticism, of course, means flowers for no reason at all, and a stolen kiss before leaving, but it’s also about being united by a look. And the position described above lends itself perfectly to the play of glances. Seeing the excitement in the other’s irises, responding with a gasp, a pupil dilating, that’s getting your kicks.

Heading for seventh heaven, or even eighth! Because yes, the limits of pleasure can cross unexplored spheres. But how? By having fun!

Go straight to level eight of vaginal fisting

Ladies, have you ever heard the phrase “Are you vaginal or clitoral?”? Yes, that’s nonsense. All women experience pleasure when their clitoris is titillated. Whether titillated with fingers, tongue during cunnilingus or a sex toy, this organ generates sensations like no other. So why deprive yourself of it during vaginal fisting?

Imagine your scenario and live it to the full… to the full!

The clitoris is an extremely erogenous zone. Stimulated at the same time as penetration, it carries you right through to orgasm. Your partner has two hands! The second can be used to excite your rosebud. If that’s too complicated, sex toys are your best allies in bed. There are a number of high-performance clitoral stimulators available. Depending on your desires, opt for a vibrating or suction device.

Which of you will have control over this third partner?

The choice is yours! Either you’re a control freak and take charge of your pleasure by modulating the frequencies. Or you can give yourself over to him, leaving him in charge. Let yourself be surprised by the rhythmic variations of the sex toy and its fist inside you.

Either way, you’re bound to reach the pinnacle of bliss, and your body will let you know it.

Female ejaculation during vaginal fisting

Often confused with urine, female ejaculation does exist. It’s a sign of great excitement. And like a man, it is secreted and released by the body at the moment of orgasm. Not every woman can reach this state of trance. Nevertheless, it can be surprising and even embarrassing. With vaginal fisting, this often happens, so before intercourse, it’s a good idea to empty your bladder.

As with any practice involving your body, we come to the recommendations of both the fisteur and the fisted person.

Special advice for the fisteur

It’s all very well to want to achieve supreme bliss by fulfilling your fantasy. But you need to think about the consequences for you and your partner.

You’ve realized that you can do without a condom in an exclusive relationship, provided you’ve been tested. The same goes for vaginal fisting. Protection is necessary, even if the act is performed without penile penetration. Your hands must be clean. And if they’re damaged or scratched, remember to wear gloves.

Rest assured, the pleasure is still there, for you and for her. Especially if you adapt your scenario to the gloves. Take a look at porn sites to get some ideas in case you run out!

Special advice for the fisted person

Your body belongs to you, so it’s up to you to call the shots. Vaginal fisting implies a high degree of trust between partners. But it’s you who defines when it stops. Pain tolerance varies from person to person, so don’t hesitate to communicate with your partner. It’s important to let them know how you feel. Listen to them as much as to yourself. No one knows better than you where your limits are. Define them with him. Passwords are commonplace. Otherwise, a simple “stop” will do.

The fisturist must also take precautions to withdraw painlessly. It’s a good idea to take a deep breath when withdrawing from your partner’s fist.

Vaginal fisting is more common in queer circles. However, cisgender people also like to raise the bar. Without reaching pure BDSM practices, this sensory experience must absolutely be a consensual act. Add the recommended ingredients we’ve mentioned and it’s even better!

 

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