Want to have a threesome with your girlfriend and her best friend? Here are some tips to help you open the discussion.

Are your girlfriend and her bestie the cutest pair when they spend time together? Are they fun loving, open minded, and attractive? You are thinking about a threesome right?

Do you think that they might enjoy having some special fun bonding time together in an intimate setting with you? If so, you may find yourself planning a threesome or looking for ways to plan one. It is important to always be respectful and appropriate when trying to initiate or plan a menage a trois. It should be equally memorable and enjoyable for everyone involved.

Following this guide can help you take your girlfriend and her bestie to bed in the most smooth and pleasurable way possible, without entering in a polyamory relation !

Threesome with your girlfriend's bestie

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1. Observe the Relationship Between Your Girlfriend and Her Bestie

If your girlfriend and her bestie have a physically close or flirty relationship, then they may be more likely to want to have a menage a trois with you. Keep an eye on their relationship and see if they do things like cuddle, kiss, and sit on each other’s laps.

If they giggle and flirt with each other as a part of the friendship already, they might be excited to explore that side of their friendship a little bit more and take it to the next level with a threesome.

2. Ask Some Vague Questions to Feel Things Out

Do not jump straight into the hard hitting questions. At an appropriate and comfortable time, ask some basic questions to get to know your girlfriend’s interests and boundaries better.

See how she feels about the topic of threesomes in general. See what she thinks might be fun to spice up your relationship a little bit. When you ask for her input, you may be surprised. Maybe she will even suggest it herself.

3. Openly Communicate with Your Girlfriend First

If she does not suggest the same idea as you without any prompting, then it is time to openly communicate. First, let her know that you love her and respect her. Then, let her know that you may want to explore a threesome encounter.

Ask her who she would prefer to include. She will probably suggest her bestie. If you suggest the bestie, make sure to explain why you made the suggestion. Make sure your girlfriend knows that her comfort and happiness are your first priority, and it will be just a sex friend and not a way to have sex (and love) with another girl.

4. Let Your Girlfriend Talk to Her Bestie about the Threesome

If your girlfriend agrees that this sounds like a fun plan, then she will need to talk to her bestie about the idea first. Give them their time and space to discuss this comfortably.

They may want to go out for dinner or drinks to talk about it. If you are close with the bestie, they might invite you to tag along. Maybe the fun will even occur after dinner. If you are not close with the bestie, they may want their privacy to talk.

5. Plan A Fun Evening

If everyone is interested, you should then take the initiative to plan out a really fun evening for everyone. Do not plan to jump straight into the down and dirty action. Come up with some activities, like flirty dice games or card games that you can play all together before undressing.

Make sure that your home is clean and well organized. Wash sheets and towels, pick up trash, vacuum, and wipe counters down. Come up with the ultimate threesome music playlist to play during the evening. One or two drinks can help you to get into the mood but avoid stocking up on too much alcohol. Y

ou want to make sure that everyone is fully consenting and ready for action, so drinking more than one or two drinks is a bad idea.

6. Focus on Keeping Everyone Happy

Once the threesome begins, your job is to keep both your girlfriend and her bestie as happy and satisfied as possible. You may want to plan out ideas in advance that will ensure that they both feel stimulated and appreciated. Sometimes taking ideas from videos, magazine photos, or erotic stories can be helpful.

Make sure to make meaningful eye contact with your girlfriend throughout the evening. Encourage her and her bestie to have fun and try new things without being pushy or overzealous.

7. Communicate and Be Safe

Communication is key when having a new encounter. Make sure that your girlfriend talks with her bestie about what her likes and dislikes are in the bedroom. Discuss these things well in advance. If her bestie has some favorite turn ons or fetishes, you may want to try those out.

Always make sure that you know their soft limits, hard limits, and safe words. Make sure that everyone is safe and consenting throughout the encounter. Do this by verbally asking for permission before trying new things and by asking questions like “Does this feel good?” or “Do you like when I do this?” Laugh through any awkward moments and make it a fun time without too much pressure or too many expectations.

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